I used to dislike being alone.
I was much younger and there was some fear there. I just felt like I had to have people around me to talk to. I needed company.
Then it happened.
I discovered what the cliché “personal relationship with God” meant.
He came into my life in a strange way. I got to the point where I did not know where to turn and then finally I turned to Him. He welcomed me and became my Lord and Savior.
Sometimes it works like that.
Something else I discovered.
I will never be alone again.
I started liking alone time; that time was my time to be with God. Away from people.
Sometimes I “lay it all out” for Him in my alone time, in my prayers. Sometimes my prayers are not so great. Even those days when I am tired and fuzzy-headed I feel His presence. I know I am not alone.
It occurs in the early morning hours.
With my hot cup of coffee.
In a darkened room.
Of course, alone time or quality time may not be your love language. You don’t want to be alone.
Even if quality time is your preference, you may not want to be in a darkened room, with a cup of coffee, early in the morning.
But make the effort to find what works for you.
If you have learned that quality time is your love language, experiment with different things.
Here are 6 tips from website entitled “Momsanity.”
1.set aside time. It is hard but be selfish about this. It’s important. Take time out of your busy day, no matter how busy it gets. You may have to be creative. When traveling with others, take a walk alone. When in a car, turn off the radio and just talk to God. I like my alone time and I am highly motivated to have it, but sometimes others don’t understand. They have their interests and they make demands on your time. But it is important to guard this time with God, more important than any person’s worldly demands.
2.garden bench, deck, front porch, under a tree, in your favorite chair [it does not matter] but you need to be alone. You need to get away from the computer, the tv, the radio, the phone; you know, the distracting devices of modern day life. All that stuff will be there when your quality time is over.
3.some people use devotion books, Bibles and journals as they are alone. My focus is on prayer so I do my study later in the day. If you need a devotion to kick start your day, use one. There are so many. One I have used over the years is Streams in the Desert by L.B. Cowman. Over my Christian life, I have noted special things that have happened on the pages. It is so interesting to go through it in later years and recall when I was on my walk with Christ on that date years ago.
4.have post-it notes available. Competing thoughts do come and one thing I do to “set them aside” is to jot the ideas on a post-it note and that note just sits there. I know I can come back to it later and I can continue on with my quality time.
5.be intentional. Some people don’t understand but make this a ritual. If you love quality time, make quality time a priority. I believe this. If you want a new habit, make it a ritual. God wants to speak to you. You need to speak to God. He will show up. You need to show up too.
6.ask the Holy Spirit to help. We all have one. It is called The Helper in the Bible [John 14:26—“ But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you.” When you are in need of a special connection, ask for His help and He will show you what to do, help you with what to say, lead you to what you need to read. He is there for you and will not fail you if you ask for help.
Self-reflexive—the ability to think about yourself and know who you are. It takes time to discover this sometimes but it is worth it. It is important to know what you need and after you think you know, do what you need.
Make yourself a priority.
You are important.
God is that important.
Make time every day for Him.