Dr. Chapman says in Chapter 10, “Our relationship with God does not end when we make the God connection. In fact it just begins.”
This is an exciting time when someone connects with God, when someone learns what having a relationship with God and Jesus Christ means. It is more than church. It is a new life with our Savior.
Dr. Chapman feels that the process of growing in Christ will be enhanced greatly with awareness of our love languages.
Awareness of your preferred love languages is your first major accomplishment.
But it is that, the first step.
Knowledge that you probably speak that language [s] to others is another major accomplishment.
But Dr. Chapman does not want us to stop there; neither does God.
Using me as an example, touch is my primary love language with a score of 10. Right behind that is quality time with a 9.
But what about acts of service, words of affirmation and gifts?
God wants me to learn to speak those love languages to others. He wants me to be fluent in languages that are not my preferred languages.
It won’t be easy. He says “learning to speak other love languages may take time and effort.” But there is one thing we must remember. We are the channels of God’s love. John 15: 5-6: “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing. If you do not remain in Me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned.”
We are the branches that produce fruit and Dr. Chapman believes that much of that fruit is generated from the love language we speak to others.
Why should we be concerned with this? The answer is obvious. Because God is love and He has accepted us and loved us. He does not want us to horde the love we receive. He wants us to pass that love along to others. It is a new purpose for our lives.
Dr. Chapman says that love is a key element that should be expressed to others within the Christian community. But people who are fluent in all love languages know how to fulfill a need that is very much part of the non-Christian world. All people long to be loved and that is a major reason they will join a church, the feeling of love and acceptance that they feel there.
What an honor it is to be an instrument of God.
Through our willingness to learn the 5 love languages, God can use us. We can assume a new identity, the identity we are meant to have, an ACTIVE Christian bringing glory to the Lord.
It starts with effectively sending and receiving messages. It continues with learning new languages.
It results in growth.
Don’t you want to grow?