“Today… movies and television often portray men as clueless, game-addicted couch potatoes rather than active, hard-working leaders. Often the strong and sensible characters in movies and television are women. When portrayed as strong, men often exaggeratedly suffer from an overdose of testosterone.”*
What is wrong with men today?
We can go on and on with examples of men from the world today, men who are not really living up to their potential but let’s not.
Let focus on Ray Barone.
You probably remember the show, Everybody Loves Raymond.
Ray is the typical male, just trying to keep his head above water. He has a job as a sports writer, three kids and a wife. His wife is a “strong” woman who makes up for Ray’s lack of fortitude with her own powerful sense of right and wrong. As Ray tries to coexist with her, his number one goal is to do as little as possible to help around the house. As we observe his life, he will do anything to get out of work. He is constantly trying to create explanations for why he cannot act to help his wife with housework, the kids or anything she is interested in.
In this show, we see Ray caught up in numerous lies where he is willing to tell “fibs” to get out of working to help his wife.
He does have things he wants to do, watch sports with his friends and play golf and he will do what he has to do to indulge in his interests.
Added to this dynamic, Ray is scared to death of his mother, who lives across the street. He wants to please her more than his own wife, which is painful for his wife to endure.
We watch the show and it is episode after episode of Ray goofing up. He tries to weasel his way around taking action on anything and always gets caught in his little efforts to dissemble.
What does Ray need to do?
He needs to take action.
“Manhood, by God’s design, includes active, intentional work and leadership. We see this at the beginning of the Biblical narrative, in Genesis 2:15: “The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.” From the beginning, men were to be active (“work”) and responsible (“keep”) on behalf of what God had made. As we will see, God calls all men to actively work and lead in the following spheres: ourselves, our families, our jobs, our church, and our society. In fact, the astounding truth is that God has made men in such a way that the hard work of intentional leadership in these areas is ultimately the most satisfying way to live.”*
Don’t get me wrong, it is wonderful to see women lead today. I love it.
This is not about one gender being better than the other.
However it is sad to see men shrink from an active role in life [like Ray Barone]. At my church there is an effort to start up United Methodist Men again. What happened to UMM? Why did they disappear? Women’s groups in the church are active but no men’s groups?
The title of this post was borrowed from a post from the website noted below.
It is a disturbing title, to say the least.
If “manhood” has been marred, it is time to stop marring it further.
Maybe the way to stop this is to avoid passivity.
Let us take action.
*From the Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood