Ok, my second highest score on my Love Languages Profile is quality time. I scored a 9 for this language. Thirty percent of my points on my profile are for quality time.
I appreciate quality time but I am old.
I appreciate quality time but I am slow.
I appreciate quality time but I like to think [sometimes I overthink things].
Newsflash, we live in hurried world. We have so many distractions and life moves so fast. I hate this but I am going to make broad cultural judgments. [The reason I hate it is because broad cultural judgements do no one any good].
Family time is now at a premium. We work so hard and often don’t leave work at work. Thanks to our various technical devices, we can stay connected to work 24/7.
It takes more money to support our lifestyles which in turn makes us spend more time working to make more money.
Even when we are home, we work like we are at work. We rush through chores, often thinking about the next chore before the one we are on is done. We don’t enjoy what we are doing. We don’t know how to go slow.
We have tv on. We are on our computer, I Pad, etc. We are never alone with people. We always have a connection to someone who is not present. This makes our “presentness” problematic. Maybe we can be present but if we are communicating with someone else “not present” we are distracted and not communicating well with the person right in front of us [the person present].
We don’t eat together anymore. I know people who have not had a family meal in years. It takes time to prepare a meal, eat it and clean up. It takes time that people don’t have.
We don’t explore our environment. We don’t take time to appreciate our home; we don’t take time to explore our communities. Just yesterday, my wife and I went out to find some Amish stores and we found some. I was ashamed to admit that I did not know where one was. No time spent exploring our environment and I’m retired!
People can’t sit still, people hate being alone, people have horribly short attention spans.
Can anyone do quality time?
Read how a Love Language Profile describes the person who likes “quality time:” “In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.”
This is oriented toward people you share your life with, but Dr. Chapman wants us also to spend “quality time” with God.
Is it possible today?
Do you really have time for quality time?
This is our topic for the week. Beware, it may take some time….